Are You Still Waiting for Your Special Purpose?

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“Exaggerated sensitiveness is an expression of the feeling of inferiority.” – Alfred Adler

Adler was one of the big three:  Jung, Freud, and Adler, though his name does not ring a bell in the larger public mind anymore.  If Freud was about sex and death, Jung about archetypes and the collective unconscious, Adler was about power.  He was a birth order guy and believed that how power dynamics worked out in relationships and within our own psyche determined our mental health. 

Just checked up on my knowledge about  Adler and discovered a fascinating twist to his point of view.  He believed that each of develops a more or less submerged final goal, a goal that creates significance for us.  This goal compensates for feeling of inferiority.  Don’t know about you, but the feeling I was here for something special, nurtured by mom and dad and reinforced by teachers and friends has cost me big time in life’s journey.  Like alcoholism this striving wastes time and pushes us away from the Tao.  

At this point I am a recovering alcoholic and I feel good about my now 32 years of sobriety, though not overconfident. It’s still a day at a time in reality.  I have stripped away most of the vestiges of fame seeking, break through idea hopes and now seem to have little left in the way of the old drivers that Adler names.  Not none, it’s difficult to let go of the vague, perhaps magical idea that someday, somewhere things will change, but I try to put it context if it arises and then to let it go.

Note from Mary that she’s working away on the revision of her dissertation.  Her advisor is on her case, she says.  Oh, boy, am I glad I’m not doing that.

Kate and I went through our calendar through July.  Next month will be busy for me.

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