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Monday, Monday

Samhain                                                           Winter Moon

It’s so cold ice doesn’t work on our highways and streets.  It has to be 10 above at least and we’re not predicted to reach that mark until Saturday.

Finished designing a new workout schedule.  You have to mix it up once in a while otherwise a rut.  Going back to a lighter workout on Tuesday and Thursday, some cardio and core and sticking with the high intensity cardio on Monday, Wednesday, Friday.  That’s when I do the regular resistance work, in between high intensity bursts lasting around 2 minutes in the anaerobic range.

Kate and I are going into St. Paul to see a financial advisor.  We see her 2 to 3 times a year. She helps us keep our cash flow working.  Ruth dug us out of a big hole about 10 years ago and we’ve flourished since then.  She’s a great reality check.

 

Could You Teach Them?

Samhain                                                                   Winter Moon

Brother Mark taught in Hail two years ago and had technical school students.  These kids might have been in his classroom.

“Saudi youths demonstrate a stunt known as “sidewall skiing” (driving on two wheels) in the northern city of Hail, in Saudi Arabia March 30, 2013. Performing stunts such as sidewall skiing and drifts is a popular hobby among Saudi youths.”

 

Hail, Hail

Samhain                                                          New (Winter) Moon

4 females, one human and 3 canines, one male.  All present and accounted for.  The house 400_late summer 2010_0163is full again.

On the cold and snow coming.  Yes.  Yes.  Three times yes.  We live here in the north and for many of us our northerness gets defined in these three months when the snow and the cold come.  What it will be like here when the boreal forest has fled further north and the winters have become like currently more southern climes I don’t know, but I know I don’t want to be here then.

 

At Home

Samhain                                                     New (Winter) Moon

Kate’s timing was ideal.  She got home as the rain cum snow began.  She accepted the greetings of a grateful doggy contingent and a happy husband. Good to have her back.

Snow’s coming down with some energy now.  Big fat flakes which usually mean less accumulation, little snow big snow being Northern weather wisdom.  We’ll see.  As the temps cool down tonight, the snow could increase in volume going from fat wet clumps to smaller flakes that will collect in larger amounts.

A severe shock of below normal temps will hit western North Dakota meaning those poor bastards outside in the Bakken Oil Fields.  It’ll be so fracking cold the workers will have a tough time staying limber.

 

The Corn Palace

Samhain                                                        New (Winter) Moon

Kate’s in Mitchell, sleeping near the Corn Palace.  She’ll make it home tomorrow Lord willin’ and the creek don’t rise.  It’s been a week since she left and the house has had that not full resonance.  Tonight, knowing she’ll be home tomorrow, it has the she’s just gone for a little while feel.  Slowly taking on its more usual tones as her presence returns, a piece at a time.

It’s been an interesting week since I’ve been without a car and have not left our property for the duration.  The only difference I’ve noticed is that the occasional urge to go somewhere, to the grocery store or a quick trip into Minneapolis, vanished quickly.  As soon as it surfaced.  Otherwise I’ve followed my usual routines.  Missing Kate, of course, but also enjoying the monastic moment.

Tonight will be the last night alone in the bed.

Samhain                                                          Thanksgiving Moon

Kate spent the night in Sundance, Wyoming, near Devil’s Tower.  She remarked on the beauty of Wyoming and I agree.  It’s a beautiful place with very few people, fewer than 575,000, which puts it at 50 of 50 in terms of population.  That’s 5.9 folks per square mile, lower density than 48 others.  Only enormous Alaska has a lower density at 1.3 per square mile.  Beauty does not feed people.  The barren high plains and intermontane areas plus the Rocky Mountains on the western edge make Wyoming inhospitable. Sounds like a perfect place to live.  Except for those Cheney’s and the homophobia.  Laramie’s in Wyoming.

 

 

Kate

Samhain                                                           Thanksgiving Moon

There is one.  One special thanksgiving.  It starts with the baroque or the classical, a little IMAG0998Mozart, some Hayden, Pachelbel.  An affiliation with the older music making traditions of public music in the West.  Enough so to encourage regular attendance.  Then divorces, seats given up, and two people, the remainders of the marriages, seated next to each other.

Yes, one night over coffee at the St. Paul Hotel after the last Chamber Orchestra concert of the season, this woman and I discovered we had each other figured wrong.  Me: a lawyer.  Her: a school teacher, maybe a college professor.

Later a three week trip through Europe, starting in Rome, following spring north in March, as far north as Inverness, capital of the Highlands.  After that, closing in on 24 years of supporting and loving each other, blending our families, raising and loving many dogs, growing food, sewing and writing, growing old happily.

Kate.  This is thanks for Kate.

 

Be Glad You Exist

Samhain                                                            Thanksgiving Moon

Thankful.  Grateful.  Still here.

Yes, that’s the  prerequisite to all that follows, my living presence to write these words. And, yes, damn it, I’m grateful to be alive.

When I visited Constanta, Romania a year and a half ago, I went there as a pilgrimage to the place of Ovid’s exile.  This is a city that has Roman (Romania!) roots.  Outside an excellent museum of Roman and Greek antiquities (it was a Greek trading port first.), there was a collection of grave markers.  On one of them was this line:  Be Glad You Exist.  That’s what I would call ur-gratitude.  Thankfulness for living.

It’s where I’ll start.  Beyond consciousness and good health in my own case I’m thankful for the same in Kate, the dogs, family, friends and even a few others.  Our home.  Our buddies and colleagues the bees, the soil and the plants which grow in it, those past and those to come.  The orchard and the trees in our woods.  All the critters, sleeping and active that call it home.

Extending all that in a generally cosmic direction, I am grateful for the physics that allow us to exist at all, the sun for its energy, the planet for its hospitable climate (sorry about that hot pack, Gaia) and the North American continent for its wildness and its cities and towns.  Yes, the suburbs, too.  Even Andover.

Language.  English.  Being able to communicate with each other, even through such a flawed and miraculous medium.  What would life be without language?  Western medicine.  Often maligned, but my fav.  Western civilization.  Also often maligned, but mine and yours.  At least most of you who read this.  And just as worthy a human artifice as anyone else’s.

Of course the internet.  Cyberspace.  What a wonder to an old man raised with bakelite phones, 6 digit phone numbers, a time before tv.  So much.  So much to say thank you for. More than can be expressed in any list, no matter how long.

How about, for example, oxygen?  Or the properties of water?  We are made of stardust, animated elements spun out so long ago at the birth not of our nation, not of our planet, not of our solar system, not of our galaxy, but of our universe.  And now they walk, talk, consider their origin.  How damned amazing is that?

So.  Thanks.

 

The Most Unusual Holiday

Samhain                                                                    Thanksgiving Moon

In long ago still Christian days I sought advice from a spiritual director, a Jesuit nun whose name I have forgotten.  I have not forgotten her advice, however.  “Keep a gratitude journal.  All spirituality begins in gratitude.”

Thanksgiving has become a primary, if the not the primary, American holiday.  As such, it is one of the highlights of holiseason, a family focused festival celebrated across religious, class and ethnic lines.   Its emphasis on gratitude, now long unmoored from its ironic relationship to the natives of the East Coast,who reportedly provided the food for the “first Thanksgiving,” enhances it.

It is a holiday with a focus on thankfulness, not getfulness, and as such, might be the most unusual holiday of them all.  We come together with a desire to eat together, of course. Festive banqueting is an ancient way of honoring a god, a king or a queen, a birthday, a national or religious observance, but here that banquet instead honors the land, its fruits, and the relationships which matter to us. It may be  the central American holiday, one more evocative of an American civil spirituality than the guns and bluster 4th of July or even the more narrow celebrations of Labor Day and Memorial Day.  There will be no time in our common life when stopping for a day of thanks will be inappropriate.

 

Siesta. Si.

Samhain                                                          Thanksgiving Moon

Grandma’s in Denver, probably having breakfast at the Best Western with the grandkids 2011 11 22_3981right about now.  She forgot to take her recipes so we may have to shore her up from home base.

(Grandma in Brazil)

The dogs and I have hit a rhythm that’s working so far.  The house is quieter with Kate gone and for a silence loving guy like me, I don’t like it.  Having another mouse in the burrow makes the whole place feel more livable.

Having said that my day doesn’t change much.  Up around 7:00-7:30.  Down to work around 8:00.  I will take a break at 10:00 to see if the dogs need to go out, then back to work until lunch.  Lunch.  Nap.  Work and workout till 7:00 or so.   Then relax.  This is, roughly, the daily schedule I discovered in Bogota now over 25 years.  It made sense to me then and makes sense to me now.

Many could not adjust their day to this kind of schedule, I know that, but if you can, I imagine you would see an increase in productivity and serenity.  Whole swaths of Latin culture have done it for years, even centuries and there’s physiological reason for it.  Get a good 7-8 hours of sleep, get up and use that good morning time for work.  Then, as the body slows down in the middle of the day, eat and nap, follow it with another pulse of work until the early evening, then enjoy yourself and your family.  A very pleasant way to live.