Leaving

Winter                                                                  New (Cold) Moon

And so.  Had lunch with Allison at the Walker.  “Elvis has left the building,” she said when we met.  Today at 1 pm I said good-bye to Jennifer and Paula, turned in my badge to the guard, picked up my coat, the attendant found it before I put my number on the counter, that’s how much I’ve been there of late, walked out the door and left the museum behind.

Not forever.  Just till July 1st.  But it felt like a definite parting, an end of something and the beginning of another.

It was time, too.  I found myself impatient with kids on my first tour, 9 year olds, half of whom flocked to benches to sit down while the tour moved around them.  I was short.  Not helpful, but my toleration level for young indifference had reached a peak.  Time for  a rest.

When I saw Allison, we talked about the MIA, about touring, about her absence.  She mentioned that no one made any to do about Tom Byfield, who resigned last week.  Folks leave and neither the docent corps or the museum acknowledges the time and love they’ve put in over the years.  Often, many years.

Something to consider.

We also walked through the Cindy Sherman show.  Allison made an interesting point.  “Who is Cindy Sherman?  I mean, she’s about our age.  Has she had work done?  What’s she really like?”  A Walker guard said she’s unremarkable in person.  58.  It’s an interesting question.  As a sort of performance artist, wondering who she is raises questions of the nature of reality and the ability of artists to manipulate it.

After lunch, I drove home through the mist and grunge off the highway kicked up a filthy spray onto the windshield.  In January.  In Minnesota.  Guess we gotta get used to it or move.

And of these three…

Winter                                                                          New (Cold) Moon

Still parsing the change that happened over the last year or so.  It may have something to do with Kate’s retirement.  Allina and medicine as practiced there made her so unhappy.  With that out of her life she’s a different woman.  That may have had more effect on me than I imagined.  Perhaps relieved in me some of the emotional carrying charge I had as spouse.  Not sure.  Just speculative.

It may also have been the soul clarifying advance into life past 65; life lived with an existential awareness of death, rather than an abstract one.  Thinking about the third phase and its opportunities did lead to understanding what I wanted to do.  What only I could do.  And the necessity of putting myself behind those efforts as much as I can.

As that picture has become more filled in, I find myself focusing on three things:  writing, art, Latin.  That’s not to say that the garden, the bees, reimagining faith won’t get any effort from me.  They will.  But the good time, the time when I work best now belongs to those three.  It also means that I’m going to shun picking up any other responsibilities in the near and medium-term future.

And of those three, writing is the focus:  completing the Tailte trilogy, reworking the five other novels I’ve written, polishing some short stories and getting further in three novels I’ve got well started but left hanging.  If things go well with the Tailte trilogy, I have more books in that world.  It’s a rich vein.

Getting older.  Getting clearer.  Getting more determined.  That seems to be the direction.