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Thrown In

Beltane                                                                      Early Growth Moon

Nostalgia.  Ran across the word today and it made think about Alexandria and about the Simone Weil quote:  “To be rooted is perhaps the most important and least recognized need of the human soul.”

It also made me think about a cousin who, though successfully (to my eye) transplanted to California many years ago, still longs for her Blue River home, her 30 acres or so of bottom land and the life of a Midwestern tiny town.   Then of course there is the interesting case of the ex-patriot, that very word calling up a certain estranged relation between the one identified by it and their homeland.

All explained by the need to be rooted.  I reread that post and felt it wandered a bit, got off point, thought about fixing it and decided to leave it as it was.  This is a topic that has a lot of resonance for me, a bite not explained by any nostalgia I have, little.  It is perhaps explained best by the existential stance I take toward the world, yes there’s a place for me here, but it’s by choice and not by chance.  Even so.

Heidegger has this wonderful expression, thrownness, which is the time, the culture, the geography into which you are born.  Or, thrown.  And thrownness has everything to do with roots since roots are about place, especially that first place you call home.

Duncan, Oklahoma, a small town, the Mistletoe Capitol of the World, near Texas was the first place I was thrown, but it didn’t take because my parents moved not long after my birth back to Indiana, specifically to Alexandria, where my dad found work at the local newspaper, the Alexandria Times-Tribune.  This was the place the universe threw me into.

(Alexandria is in the upper right on this map.)

Quite a specific time, too, as all times are.  This was post-war America, the victorious military spit out most of its members including my mom and dad.  They settled down to populate the land.  America had become a world power in the war years, so to those of us born post-war it seemed as if it had always been so.

Alexandria was a bedroom community then, a place where workers at the three shifts run by General Motors at Delco Remy and Guide Lamp could earn a middle-class income and only drive the nine miles to Anderson, Indiana on bloody Highway 9.  It was in many ways the epitome of the American dream where a family could own a house, a car or two, have enough money left over for a boat and a vacation.  Food on the table with regularity.  Good medical care.

They came from the hills of Arkansas, Tennessee, Kentucky especially and settled in this small town with two dime stores, two grocery stores, a woman’s clothing store, a men’s clothing store, a daily newspaper, a newsstand and shoe repair, a furniture store, two drugstores, a bakery, two theaters, two banks, several churches, a couple of drive-ins, a bowling alley and a national class roller rink.  There was, too, a Carnegie library, two or three elementary schools, a junior high and a high school.  The Nickle Plate ran through town and Highway’s 28 and 9 intersected toward the north.

Physically it was flat with a small creek, the dejectedly named Pipe Creek, running on the eastern side and through the southern end of town.  Surrounded by the checkerboard pattern of mile square road systems laid down in the 19th century, Alexandria sat in the middle of fertile farmland and had a thriving farm community, too.  It was mixed in that way, farm and industry.

Most folks in those early post-war years just wanted time to settle down, sink into a peaceful life.  And they did.  Still, my friends whose parents came from the hills in the south often talked about going home.  This was a diaspora for them, a move away from home dictated by better economics, but not by a better place.  Their yearning was palpable, a distinctive feature of my childhood.

Indiana in those days and Alexandria was representative of this was union country.  The United Auto Workers, representing all those folks commuting to Anderson, won victory after victory against the power of GM, Ford and Chrysler.  They won better wages, better medical care, better pensions, better vacations.  In return Alexandria’s UAW workers turned out alternators and silvered head lamps for Chevrolets, Oldsmobiles, Pontiacs.

It was, because of the strong union, a Democratic place, a liberal voting place that put Democrats in congress with great regularity.  My dad, a newpaperman, was a Franklin Delano Roosevelt liberal which meant he supported social security and other new deal benefits, but was rabidly opposed to communism.  Mom was a stay at home mom, though she had an associate teaching degree and did sometimes substitute teach at the elementary level.

There was, too, basketball.  And the Indy 500.  The Indiana state fair.  These three were cultural institutions that defined us, creating conversation and speculation all year.

I may not be nostalgic for that time or that place, but that does not mean I don’t appreciate it, respect its place in my past and the lessons it taught me.  Over time, I’ve lived here in Minnesota for 43 years now, far longer than the 21 I lived in Indiana, Minnesota has become my home, a place I threw myself into and my roots are in 10,000 lakes, the boreal forest, the cultural life of the Twin Cities, friends, family and memories here.  But for all that this is not where I was raised, it is not where my high school classmates live and it is not the place where the nights and days of childhood have physical referents.

 

 

Alexandria

Beltane                                                                         Early Growth Moon

A shout out to the Alexandria, Indiana readers who’ve written in over the last week.  Good to hear from you.  I left Alexandria in the fall of 1965 and, except for two summers and a brief period in 1968, never lived there again.  My memories, therefore, now fall into the realm of yesteryear.  From 1965, the year I graduated from high school, to now is 48 years, almost to the 50 mark.  I look forward to that one because it will be another high school reunion and I’ll be back again.

(Alexandria Carnegie Library)

Summers back then meant the opening of the pool at Beulah park, days spent hanging out, sometimes at the bakery, sometimes at the Kid Kanteen, going to dances at the armory,  heading over to Frisch’s to see what was happening.

In my crowd there were also weekly poker games with Wilbur Gross, Larry Cummings, Zane Ward, Richard Lawson and some others whom I don’t recall right now.  Since I carried the Times-Tribune, a daily at the time, for 8 or 9 years, that meant every evening around 3:30 or 4:00 pm, I would come to pick up my papers in the little shack attached to the Times-Tribune building, then at the base of what, John Street, I believe, headed toward Highway 9.  That meant time before we picked up the papers and we all played black jack.  Five nights a week for many years.  Alexandria gave me a firm grounding in card games, instilling a card sense that has stood me well.

(1st grade at Harrison Elementary–Hwy 9 across from the cemetery.  That’s me second from the left in the first row between Steve Kildow and Ronnie Huffman.)

Lots of memories, most of them good, though not all, because not all times are good, even those seen through the gauze of past time.  Maybe we’ll investigate some of those another time.

A 50’s Boyhood

Beltane                                                                        Early Growth Moon

As summer tries to take root, bringing heat to this winterspringsummerfall season we’ve
been having, Memorial Day arrives.  In my school days Memorial Day meant school was over until Labor Day.  The grandkids in Colorado go into June and start up again mid-August.

I recall those long summer breaks perhaps better than the school years they punctuated, especially at the elementary ages, grades 1-5.  They were hours upon end of baseball, bike riding, playing kick the can, hanging out at the field, a special place that could become a fort, a trench, a hideout, a bunker, an overnight camping spot.  This was kid world, immersed in the boiling mass of kids my age or so that lived on Monroe Street between 1952 and 1958-9.

To a young boy in Indiana this was the 50’s, the Atomic Age now lionized in Mad Men and  shops filled with retro furniture, plastic chairs with metal legs, formica tables, aluminum tumblrs, boomerang shaped end tables, blond furniture, poodle skirts and fancy aprons for high-heel clad cooks.

This was not our 50’s.  Our 50’s had sandlots, trips to the forbidden pit, the subtle ranking inevitable among groups of children, the magical evenings as dusk fell, bats swooped and we each found a hiding place behind an arbor vitae, an enclosed porch, a dark shadow beside a garage, waiting for the tag that would make us out or finding a chance for momentary glory when we could streak out, run like the wind and kick the tin can clattery clat clanging down the street.

Yes, we had homes and parents and bedrooms and breakfast but those were way stations, filling stations and kiddie hotels, holding us only until we could go out.  “I’m going out,” was a phrase common on our lips.

We knew the limits to our wandering which meant we could have, from time to time, the  experience of venturing beyond them, back to the old gravel pit now filled with water where instant drowning awaited–we imagined our sad funerals and weeping parents, or off into a far neighborhood, perhaps as far as downtown if we had pop bottles we had collected from the trash.

That all lay before us as Memorial Day came, with the legionnaire color squad straining and sweating in those uniforms that fit so well back in their service days, the band playing patriotic music and a few floats with a queen or two doing the wave.  Dogs barked.  Clouds rode high in the blue sky and war was in the past, something to remember.

 

 

Indy 500

Beltane                                                                             Early Growth Moon

Cord cutters.  That’s Kate and me.  We signed off Comcast cable a year plus ago and haven’t missed it.  We do have Netflix, Hulu and Amazon Premier which keep movies and certain TV shows available, but at times we want to watch them, not according to schedules and with none of the hardware of Tivo.

Except for today.  The Indy 500.  Sometimes I watch it; sometimes I don’t.  Today Kate suggested we go to a sports bar since we couldn’t get it here.  We did that.  And it was fun.  We watched about 80 laps at Tanner’s, had breakfast/lunch and headed back around 12:00, 12:15.

I came downstairs and discovered that I could follow the remaining laps  with four screens on my computer, each one with the on-screen camera feed of a key driver.  I finished watching Ed Carpenter (Naptown boy, 21, finished 10th after winning the pole), Helio Castroneves (3 time winner who finished in the top five), Hunter-Reay (who lead most of the last laps, but lost out in a heart breaker, losing the lead between two yellow flags, the last one up through the end of the race) and Marco Andretti (of the storied Andretti clan, who, after 90 plus starts have won only once).

It was a compelling way to watch the race with the standings running across the top like ticker tape.  That’s what I did with the last three hours.  Now for a nap.

The Numinous

Beltane                                                                         Early Growth Moon

One of the problems with the Self model I proposed yesterday is that it is sticky.  When the ego has its way, which it wants to do all the time, feelings and thoughts gum up the mental works, a problem that zen and other meditative disciplines can correct, or, at least, diminish.  Example.  Waking up at 4:50 am this morning, then running through the evening at Tom’s 35th anniversary gig.  Nothing in particular, just this thought then that thought, which might lead to an emotion which can careen off in another direction.

This not unusual for me, neither is it usual.  It happens.  Rather than eliminate the self to control the ego I choose to say, it happens.  And not worry the matter beyond that.  Then I can move on, albeit with less sleep than I might desire, but I can always–and always do–take a nap.

At 10:30 I see John Desteian, my analyst (Jungian), of long standing and we will discuss the numinous.  At least that’s the question for the day:  what is the essence of the numinous?  I’ve had some time to reflect on that since John and I last met.

Rudolf Otto invented the term numinous in his book, The Idea of the Holy.  In this book he wanted to get at the non-rational aspects of religion, the holy and the sacred being the usual terminology for it.  He felt these words had a lot of baggage and had gotten confused in the up take of rationalists who wrote theology, did historical criticism of biblical texts and generally tried to shoehorn the  whole of the religious experience into the reason paradigm forcefully advanced by Enlightenment thinkers and the newly regnant science.  Otto wrote in 1909.

The numinous is his word for the dimension of the holy and the sacred not touchable by reason, yet crucially important to their lived reality.  Jung, born in 1903, came to Otto’s work with a deep respect for the small r religious life and adopted the numinous as critical to his understanding of psychology.

Thus, the question, what is the essence of the numinous?  As I see it right now, the numinous is an affective response to an experience of the other, an example of which would be the ego experiencing the Self.  The ego, as the command and control center of the psyche, believes it has full authority for advancement of its priorities, but not so.  The ego works best and accomplishes the most when subservient to the overall needs of the Self.

That is, the ego wants to arrange matters to optimize the survival and flourishing of what it perceives to be me, the sense of I that has the most developmental history, and also the sense of I most invaded by cultural or personal expectations that may not advance the interest of the Self, but may try (too often successfully) to bend the Self toward the goal of career, ambition, money, fame, power.  This bending or truncating of the Self in service of needs defined by externals–the culture or persons influential in the individual’s history–leads to deep unhappiness, a sense (and the reality) of betraying one’s Self.

The power of the numinous comes in its ability to challenge the mundane priorities of the ego.  Note, the ego’s priorities are not bad or wrong.  To the contrary, they are in line with the need to survive and, within limits, to thrive.  Those limits are, interestingly, the places where the needs of the Self conflict with received expectations, either cultural or from your personal history.  In other words, the unexamined ego will take me down the path of whatever expectation hollers loudest.

When the numinous, the whole Self, (or God, or Brahma, or shunyata) intervenes, it enlists the ego’s powers of organization, protection and survival and marshals them in a more holistic direction, that is, fulfillment of dreams and hopes that connect the individual to the collective, not in the sense of overpowering it or coming to dominate it, but in a manner that synchronizes the gifts of the individual with the needs of the many.

This change of direction can be terrifying, can seem like abandonment of everything mom and dad taught, of those very things the culture says are most desirable, and such a direction threatens the individual with isolation and failure.  The most familiar direction seems safest and an experience of the numinous challenges it.

 

 

 

Cities

Beltane                                                                       Early Growth Moon

Writing the post below reminded me of a topic I pursued in some depth for many years, cities.  Cities fascinated me from the moment I visited Chicago, Washington and NYC as a teenager.  Small town central Indiana, even the Indianapolis of the late 50’s and early 60’s, had none of the energy, the danger, the possibility.

(Cedar-Riverside People’s Center, formerly Riverside Presbyterian Church.  I had an office there in the late 70’s and early 80’s.)

When I moved to New Brighton in 1970, on my very first day at Seminary, also my very first day in Minnesota, we visited the Guthrie, the Walker and the MIA.  Not too much later I discovered a program, I don’t recall its name, that allowed students to buy theater tickets and orchestra tickets for ridiculously low prices.  That put me in the seats at the Guthrie, its design in the old spot based on the Stratford, Ontario festival theater, a theater in the round(ish) with a thrust stage, a theater I had visited many times.

At some point not long after that I got a job as a weekend staff person for Community Involvement Programs (CIP), a facility for training recently released and high functioning developmentally disabled adults.  The concept involved apartment based training, teaching folks how to live independently.  The next stop after C.I.P. was your own apartment.

I lived in the facility, located in Mauna Loa apartment building, just to the east of what was then Abbott Hospital in the Stevens Square Neighborhood.  After that move I lived in either Minneapolis or St. Paul until 1994, our relocation year from Highland Park, St. Paul to Andover. (There was a brief and unhappy hiatus at the Peaceable Kingdom, my first wife and mine’s 80 acre farm in Hubbard County, and a bit of time in Centerville, the rest all in the cities.)

Over those years, starting with the organizing of the Stevens Square Community Organization and its subsequent redesign and redevelopment, which featured a very public fight with General Mills over their purchase and rehabbing Stevens Square apartments, my life became inextricable from the life of urban neighborhoods.  That engagement stuck until I left the Presbyterian ministry in 1991.  It even lasted a year beyond that when I took on teaching a small group of students in urban ministry internships.

Someday, I’m going to write about those years.  They were fun and a lot of good got done.  Plus I learned a lot of things about cities.

Folk

Beltane                                                                 Early Growth Moon

Listening to 1960’s folk on Pandora.  Forgot how much folk music figured in the 1960’s.  I remember my first anti-American rhetoric coming in the Black Swan Coffee House in Stratford, Ontario where I was for the Shakespeare Festival.  It was an anti-Vietnam folk song sung in what would have been 1963 or so.  We were had barely begun our operations in Vietnam at that time.

Many of the early protest songs were folk songs, following the long, already established tradition among labor organizers.  There’s something about the acoustic, often with no band, that speaks deeper to me.  Kate and I support Folk Alley, too, which plays contemporary folk along with the occasional older songs.

The Coffee House circuit was big in the 1960’s a type of caffeine bar very different from Starbucks and Caribou.  They are coffee house lite, almost not there as cultural institutions, with their isolated patrons floating on the web while sipping pretentiously named drinks.  The 1960’s coffee house was more in line with the 18th and 19th century versions in England where much of the early scientific and industrial revolutions got their start.  The main difference is that the 1960’s version featured political plotting, resolve boosting through music and plenty of buzz to work on the next protest late into the night.

 

Place

Beltane                                                                                 Planting Moon

 

All of us are from somewhere.  We may love that place or hate it or be indifferent to it, but it remains the unspoken standard against which we judge our present condition.  I understand that military brats don’t consider themselves tied to any location and I hope for their sake that that isn’t true, because a person without a place is a terrible thing to contemplate, so called world citizens to the contrary.

At certain times of the year our old home place gets brought to mind and late May is one of those times for me.  The greatest spectacle in racing, the Indianapolis 500 happens on the Sunday closest to Memorial Day.  It used to be on Memorial Day.

Right now in Indiana everyone’s focused on the time trials, the days preceding the race when pit crews tune the cars and the drivers familiarize themselves with the track and the way their car responds to it.  The Indianapolis Star has an entire section of motor sports and in these weeks it will feature special interest stories leading up to the race itself.

As kids, we would all pour over lap times, engine design decisions, who was driving which car.  We could handicap an upcoming race like old railbirds at the Kentucky Derby. (among whom used to my grandfather, Charlie Keaton)   In the 1950’s the old car design, large tires with a soapbox derby look sported Offenhauser 4-cylinder engines.  It was 1963 when Team Lotus brought in a mid-engine car, which came in second, then dominated until blowing a gasket in 1964 and finally winning in 1965.  That was the first race the Offy’s hadn’t won since their rise to dominance.

It’s hard to describe how radical it was seeing this small car, low to the ground, racing against the older style Indy cars.  This picture shows Jim Graham and the first Lotus entered in the 1963 race.  It looked like a different animal altogether than the old roadsters.  They were almost instantly extinct, along with the Offenhauser engine.

Up until Team Lotus the Indy affair had been a US event, but Jim Graham’s success and the amount of money available to win soon drew many out of the European based Formula 1 racing circuit.  Now the favorite is as likely to be from Brazil as from Noblesville, Indiana.

It’s also a much faster race.  The year I was born, 1947, the Indy was won by Mauri Rose at an average speed of 116.3, a pole qualifying time of 120.0 and a total race time of 4 hours, 15 minutes.  Ten years later, in 1957, Sam Hanks won the race at an average speed of 135.6 and a race time of 3 hours, 41 minutes.  8 years after that in 1965, the year I graduated from high school, Jim Graham won in the car you see above.   Average  speed, 150.7, qualifying speed, 160.7 and a race time of 3 hours and 19 minutes, almost an hour faster than 1947.  In 1990 the average speed was an astonishing 185.9, a qualifying speed of 223.3 and a race time of just 2 hours and 41 minutes.

After that year, as the downdraft devices and the quicker engines began to reach higher and higher speeds, the track began to impose limitations aimed at lowering the overall speeds and reducing the possibility of high-speed, multiple car fatalities.  Safer car designs, cabin designs and suit designs have made the driver risk less now than in the much slower days of the 1950’s, but fatalities still occur.

Dan Wheldon, a two-time Indy winner, and winner in 2011, died that same year in a race in Las Vegas.  (above:  wheldon’s 2011 winning car)

This post is about place, about a place defining event and its embeddedness in my own life.

Yet.

Imbolc                                                                   Bloodroot Moon

Snow came in the night.  Maybe 2 inches.  Freshened up the landscape, pushed back the melting time.  Last year today it was 73, ruining my vision of the north, turning it into a slushy Indiana/Ohio/Illinois.  Climate change stealing my home.  It disoriented me, made me feel like a stranger in a strange, yet strangely familiar, land.  Now.  30 degrees.  8 inches of snow.  Home again.

A book on my shelf, important to me:  Becoming Native to This Place.  The idea so powerful.  One so necessary for this nature starved moment, as the pace of the city as refuge lopes toward its own four minute mile.  Cities are energy, buzz, imagination criss-crossing, humans indulging, amplifying, renewing humanness but.  But.

All good.  Yes.  Yet.

That stream you used to walk along.  The meadow where the deer stood.  You remember.  The night the snow came down and you put on your snowshoes and you walked out the backdoor into the woods and walked quietly among the trees, listening to the great horned owl and the wind.  The great dog bounding behind you in the snow, standing on your snowshoes, making you fall over and laugh.  Remember that?

There was, too, that New Year’s Day.  Early morning with the temperature in the 20s below zero and another dog, the feral one, black and sleek, slung low to the ground, went with you on the frozen lake, investigating the ice-fishing shacks, all alone, everyone still in bed from the party the night before but you two walked, just you two and the cold.

Before I go, I also have to mention those potatoes.  The first year.  Reaching underneath the earth, scrabbling around with gloved fingers.  Finding a lump.  There.  Another.  And another.  And another.  The taste.  Straight from the soil.  With leeks and garlic.  Tomatoes, too, and beets.  Red fingers.  The collard greens.  Biscuits spread with honey from the hive.

The Band

Imbolc                                                                         Valentine Moon

Listening to the Band, The Weight.  One of my favorite bands.  Up on Cripple Creek.  The Night They Drove Old Dixie Down.  I Shall Be Released.  The back up band for Dylan from 1965-1968 when he went on his Electric Tour, they played together until 1976, ending their touring days with the wonderful Martin Scorsese film, The Last Waltz.

Music congeals around it auras and memories, the mental flavors of a time, a moment in personal history.  Our song.  That song they played.  You know the one.  The music now known as psychedelic or acid rock cannot be heard by someone in the Movement during the ’60’s and early 70’s without instant transportation back, old Army jackets, pot, dope.  Looking out for the man.  Gettin’ back to the land.  Stopping the war.  Youth done up in  neon colors and lived to the Jefferson Airplane, Led Zepplin, the Doors.

Think of the Big Band era and World War II.  Glam rock and bubble gum.  Punk.  All have their devotees and their memories.

Magical memory tours.  That’s an important thing music offers.  I don’t go there often enough.