A Plan

Imbolc                                                      Valentine Moon

Put together a plan.  I’m going to rest until the pain subsides and while it subsides I’m going to take nsaids and do some gentle exercises.  With a plan I don’t feel creaky; I feel proactive.  Knocking back the pain reduces the aversive conditioning, resting helps the injury heal as do the anti-inflammatories.  The gentle exercises keep the stiffness down and promote flexibility.  There.

So many deaths recently.  Shirley Temple.  Sid Caesar.  Seymour Hoffman.  Maximilian Schell. Which of course is a nonsense statement.  So many deaths always.  What it means is so many deaths of people of whom I had awareness.  I remember Shirley Temple as Heidi, but I remember not her specifically from that film but her grandfather.  Sid Caesar I remember from television’s live black and white days, another generational divide I’d not realized I belonged on one side of.  Seymour Hoffman I remember in so many roles, always in the complexity of the character, often a character of ambiguous morality. Maximilian Schell, not for any movie, but for a square jawed Teutonic presence.

These are the generation ahead of me, with the exception of Hoffman, and as such are, in a sense, my parent’s generation though they’re younger than my parents would have been. What I mean is that I can still distance myself from them by saying, oh, was he still alive? But that gambit won’t work much longer.  Soon, I’ll say.  Oh, yes.  Of my generation.

Just noticed the segue here.  Probably not coincidental.

 

 

Injured

Imbolc                                                                 Valentine Moon

Been feeling like a creaky old man.  The fall I took last Saturday produced a first class large bruise on my inner left elbow which I believe took, for a moment, all of my weight. The resulting motion wrenched my left arm away from my body, tearing or pulling something where muscles insert to my sternum.  I mention this not to be gruesome, but to explain why I’ve been feeling creaky.

It matters.  I don’t mind being an old man, not one bit.  Older is what I am.  What I am is ok.  Except.  My chest hurts, up high around the sternum.  Each time I lift anything aversive conditioning sets in.  The pain itself is not such a big deal, definitely manageable as pain.  But the pain, and this is why I’m writing this, erodes my sense of myself as a healthy, fit old man.  That makes me anxious.  I wonder, what else is wrong?

This is not a conscious process.  It took a couple of conversations with Kate to get it.  The pain changes my self-image and that changed image chips away at my self-confidence.  Yes, sure, in time I’d get used to this, if it were permanent.  I’d compensate, as I imagine many of you have had to do at one point or another.

This post is about getting it out in plain sight, claiming what I’m doing and telling myself that, as Kate said, I’m injured and injuries heal.  True that.

I already feel better psychically, just from realizing what I was doing as I reacted to the pain.  Now I want to shed the anxiety and let it be.

Old man, yes.  Injured old man, yes.  Creaky old man?  Not right now.  Not yet.