Whole Cathedrals of Touching and Loving

Imbolc                                                                                Valentine Moon

Dogs.  A friend wondered why we keep so many.  And have done so for so long.  Not an 101easy question to answer on the page.  Much easier to answer on the couch or in the bed during our nap or outside working in the yard or when we come home and hear the baying the kitchen, the dogs having heard the garage door and the Rav4.

Dogs are not surrogate children.  We don’t own them, even if we buy them.  Dogs are fellow travelers, pilgrims on the journey.  We love them, feed them, care for them, play with them, and grieve for their loss.

They are companions.  Companions with a full and complete space of their own.  As dogs.  Not as replacements for something else, but as what they are, mammals like us, individuals like us, with a life to live, like us.  They agree in their big hearts to share their journey with us.

We keep at least two dogs, preferably litter mates, for a simple reason.  We believe dogs need canine companionship and who better than a brother or a sister?  Actually, we know dogs need canine companionship.  That’s the definition of a pack.  It takes a pack to raise a puppy.

Our days and our nights interlace, interweave.  I have my writing and my Latin.  Vega and Vega Kona 2012 1000Rigel have holes to dig, rabbits to run to ground, each other to chase.  Gertie rolls in the snow, plays with stuffed gorillas and squirrels and cows, searches for food to steal.

Their outside world is largely opaque to us.  We let them out and they run, always run, to the sheds to look for critters.  Down the fenceline to greet or respond to other dogs.  Into the woods to find opossums or groundhogs or raccoons or, as twice this last summer, turtles.  We do human things inside.  They do dog things.

We come together for meals, for naps, for time on the couch or individual time.  We all seem to need it, from each other.  And, this is part of the magic of dogs, we seek it out 2010 04 27_0410from each other.  A house with many dogs is a house filled with interaction, with a pat or a nuzzle or a lean or playful nip or a crisp bark that signals a need to go outside or a readiness to go to bed.  The web of these interactions, often brief, would make a thick matrix on any given day, horizontal pillars on any given week and, over the years, whole cathedrals of touching and loving.  Come to think of it, I think this is why we keep dogs.  And so many.  And have done for such a long time.

Passing Another Mile Post: 39,195,000,001

Imbolc                                                                Valentine Moon

Tomorrow night Kate and I head over to the Heartland Restaurant, a place I’ve wanted to IMAG1288try for some time.  The occasion is my 67th birthday.  The odometer clicks over then to 39,195,000,000 miles. Getting to be a high mileage vehicle.  Won’t get much at trade-in.

(aging man shoots selfie.  kicked off facebook.)

When I posted about Sid Caesar’s death yesterday, I referenced live black and white television as a generational barrier.  Made me wonder what others I’m on the other side of.  Dial telephones.  Telephones with wires.  Telephone poles, too, I suppose.  Gas prices under twenty-five cents.  In loco parentis.  The draft.  Legally segregated schools.  Cars without air bags, computers, cruise control.  Organic food.  Genetically Modified Crops.  Round Up.  The moon landing.  Kennedy, King and Malcolm X.  Drive-in movies. Available abortions.  Housewives.  Small town newspapers.  A total closet for gays.  Pre Super Bowl. Home milk delivery. I’m sure any of you could add more.

And yet.  There is still infancy, childhood, adulthood and old age.  We still breathe and procreate and eat, just as humans have done since the first homo sapiens emerged from the hominid line.  We still love, experience joy, delight, anger.  Injustice frustrates us, just as it has humans in community in all times.

The most essential, the most fundamental parts of our humanity remain regardless of time or culture.  Yes, their expression and their understanding have particular nuances shaped by era and culture, but the fundamentals remain.  In no time have we been immortal, remained children or been passionless.

We have never lived in any but the present moment.  We have never been other than on our own in our inner lives.  We have never been able to know the real inner life of another, so our lives have always included depth and mystery.  We have never been other than a part of the natural world and we have never been other than dependent on it.

So my birthday, any birthday, wraps all this up and celebrates it, one person at a time.  I’m almost past the 39,195,000,000 mile post and tomorrow morning at 9:30 am or so, I’ll tick over to 39,195,000,001.

 

Handy, Man

Imbolc                                                                 Valentine Moon

Looks like we’ve found a good handyman.  Dave Scott’s going to do several things: fix a cabinet door busted out by fighting dogs, rejigger the doors on two others, fix a lock on our sliding doors to the back, remount some curtains with a new oak fixture and, most germane for me, install my Studbar pullup bar.  I know, Studbar.

While researching this piece of equipment, I found a review of it on the Walmart website. The reviewer, a guy, referred readers of his review to the company’s website:  www.studbar.com.  Imagine my surprise, and probably everyone else’s who used the link, in finding this leads to The Studbar, a Montreal bar for men who love men.  The correct link is www.studbarpullup.com.

As long we’re on the subject of masculinity, we may as well talk about my initial uneasiness with hiring a handyman.  A totally irrational uneasiness.  That being, gee, I should be able to do these things and if I can’t I’m not a man.  Irrational, maybe, but there nonetheless.  It’s irrational because if I followed out this logic nothing would ever get fixed since, as I’ve often said, I learned all my father knew about fix-it matters.  Nothing.

(see, I found this image of the four primal male archetypes.  the handyman is not on there. So, I’m a lumberjack and I’m ok.)

This sort of failure cum shame hit me pretty hard the first time Dave came over to fix a door Kate and I could not get back on its hinges.  I didn’t expect it, like many unpleasant things it just showed up and took over.  So, yesterday when he came, I made sure I met him and walked through the tasks with Kate and him.

A nice guy.  A dog lover.  A mechanical engineer and a contractor in addition to handyman work.  He’s here working today and I feel fine.  Progress.

I know.  Studbar.  Geez.