Category Archives: The Move

Moving/Gardening Fatigue

Lughnasa                                                                 Lughnasa Moon

Both of us have experienced moving/gardening fatigue this week. Living in the move helps, but it doesn’t eliminate the stress of so many decisions large and small and the feeling of hanging over a precipice neither able to fall or retreat. The garden, we both realize, has grown beyond our energy levels, not our capacities, though there is not a functional difference.

It’s a relief to share these feelings, to know that your partner has the slows as well as you. Of course, that’s the definition of a good relationship, sharing the journey, the ancientrail of marriage.

Even with these feelings I harvested what became eleven pints of canned collard greens, enough chard to last us for several meals, carrots and beets we’ve already eaten. Also, I have gotten a fair way toward packing up my garden study, tossing no longer needed files, boxing no longer needed books. The Dremel and some books on Chinese went in one box to move. Two garbage bags weighted down with paper are in the larger recycling bin delivered last week. A file box containing material from a file cabinet I plan to sell is full.

Plus this week we met with our final realtor and looked over material she sent us this morning in our business meeting. Not like nothing’s happening. Just weary of it this week. This will pass.

 

A Swimmer’s Tale

Summer                                                              Lughnasa Moon

Just finished a BBC series, Life on Mars, recommended by sister Mary. Thanks, Mary. This series is a real mind bender. I can’t say why without giving away a lot of the plot, but if you enjoy mystery with a dose of science fiction, this British drama will appeal to you.

We selected a realtor today, a woman who believes the grounds, the vegetable garden and the orchard are selling points. She’s the daughter of Mary Thorpe, Margaret, and works with Mary at Coldwell-Banker in Minneapolis.

Mary Thorpe brought her Portuguese Water Dog with her, a small black dog with a soft curly coat. Mary took her to a friends who lived on a lake. Minnie, the dog, was in the water a lot. The next day her tail was between her legs even though she seemed happy. At the dog park another dog owner diagnosed the problem, swimmer’s tail. Turns out Portuguese Water Dogs use their tail as a rudder when they swim and when they’re in the water for extended periods the the muscle where the tail joins the body gets over used.

 

Money, Money, Money

Summer                                                        New (Lughnasa) Moon

Kate and I went to Keys for breakfast this morning, had our business meeting there. We’ve started tallying the cost of moving, that is, the cost of those things we’ll pay related to getting to Colorado. There’s some yard work, some handyman work, some painting, moving itself of course, but inside that is the cost of moving and storing items during staging the house.

We’ll have art service professionals build wooden crates for the large Jeremiah Miller paintings we own. Each one is 67″ by 68″ with no glass to protect the painting. There’ll be the cost of specialty boxes for the electronics, the other art we have framed and any other items too fragile to trust to the moving company.

There will be, of course, costs associated with buying and selling houses, but that should get covered in the transactions themselves. Then there will be setting up house related expenses in Colorado. Painting, building this or that, fencing, raised beds, that sort of thing.

It will be expensive to move even if we do well on the sale of the house and I’m guessing that we will. Not a surprise. Just important to get all the costs at least estimated so we don’t have any big unexpected costs.

 

Flowing With The Move

Summer                                                          Most Heat Moon

When we are ready, a house will appear. I believe this. We’ve looked at many, many houses online now. Kate’s visited several parts of Colorado and we’ve narrowed our geographical preference. By the time next February comes, we’ll have clarity about what we want, what we need. The one available at that time, our next house, will emerge out of the clutter of competing listings, we’ll find it. And buy it.

Before that, we finish decluttering this house, getting it ready for the market. We look at our pared down furnishings, get out the tape measure and figure the room we need for our own creative spaces. That will help us decide just how much we need in a new home, or new home plus out buildings.

All of this living in the move means staying in the flow toward Colorado, realizing where the energy naturally goes at this stage and following it. Putting our shoulders behind work at the time it needs to be done means we use the momentum of change to our benefit. Easier than fighting against it, trying to push things to move faster. Then the momentum of change works against us.

We can, now, decide on communities, specific locales like Idaho Springs, Golden, the I-70 corridor. We can, now, pack and declutter, packing those things we won’t use until next year and throwing those things we no longer need. SortTossPack has come once already and they’ll come again, probably around Labor Day. Later in the fall the yard work contractors will prune and mulch, declutter the front.

Kate and I will probably head out to Colorado for Thanksgiving together, so I can drive around with her. We’ll stay two or three nights in Golden, then another two or three in Idaho Springs. Get to know some people. By that time our house should have left, unpacked, only those things we’ll need through the move.

Then, in December or January we’ll finish up the physical modifications that need to get done for staging the house. And we’ll begin actively checking the market in Colorado. Looking for that house that is ready for us.

 

A Busy Time

Summer                                                                   Most Heat Moon

Ah. A week of guests, Jon and Ruth. 4 days with Kate gone, then 3 more days with a guest. Kate home.

Result? Weariness. A dullness and a minor sense of dispiritedness. An interesting word, this last. The spirit has gone, at least to some extent. The air has gone out of the tire, deflated. The body sags a bit, wanting to settle into a position of rest. There is to each breath the hint of a sigh.

Granting this description a full paragraph makes it sound more than I’m experiencing. It is a minor, will go away feeling. But, it is real. There is, too, a mild exhaustion. Recovery is not quite as quick as it used to be. That’s a third phase reality, too.

And, yes, it was all worth it. Jon and Ruth being here saw the deck get done, our move’s primary purpose strengthened, some important time with Ruth by herself. The time alone meant Kate was riding ahead, hand blocking out the sun, learning the mountains. Mary’s visit reaffirmed family ties, brought knowledge about mom and dad I did not have. So, yes I’m glad all of it happened and will be equally glad to have life take on its new norm as we continue to live in the move.

Today, though. A rest day.

Scouting Report: First Impressions

Summer                                                                         Most Heat Moon

No battle plan survives contact with the enemy. So it is with housing criteria. Which is why we had our scout out on a horse, peeking at houses through shrubbery, checking out communities and areas. Current impression. Acreage with trees on more or less level ground and in the mountains may not be in our price range. So, what to do?

Retreat to lower ground, changing the altitude criteria, or reconsider acreage? Right now I’m thinking the latter. We have four dogs, yes, but will have only three and at some point not too far away, only one. (Vega and Rigel will have shorter lifespans than Gertie.) Perhaps we could find a place with less acreage but land we can fence for our dogs, who are homebodies for the most part anyhow.

I’m also willing to pull back on the gardening, having a smaller plot. As my energy and enthusiasm for physical labor wanes, my interest in the life of the mind continues to increase. We might need to focus on our indoor pursuits for our property and let the Rocky Mountains tend to our earth connections. This could make more sense for aging in place anyhow.

With a smaller lot we can buy more house and maybe gain all the way round. Just thinking out loud right now.

 

 

Growing Things, Snowing Things

Summer                                                               Most Heat Moon

Another estimate. This time for yard work. We’ll get three. Two in now. This is for thinning, pruning, getting the front ready for visitors, potential buyers in February. With 650 raised beds late summer 2010_0187the gardens in the back, flowers and vegetables, and the orchard, we’ve lost focus on the front, letting it become overgrown. Now it’s going to take some effort to put it back in neat, suburban form. (about which I care very little, but which buyers will. sigh.)

Our caring has focused on tomatoes, beets and carrots, iris, lilies and snakeroot, plums, cherries and apples, not on the appearance of our front. I’ve always thought the Chinese have the best idea here. Some Chinese let the front entrance to their homes become disheveled, run down. It’s not until you’re inside, beyond the outward appearance that you see the beauty of the home.

Kate will return today, her Western scout phase over for now. She’s driven many miles in the Rockies west of Denver. Yesterday she and Granddaughter Ruth drove from Golden to Boulder and then back to Idaho Springs. Kate reported that, as you know, it’s very important to see houses in situ. Each one she saw yesterday looked great, but had one thing or another that ruled them out. One had the 2 acres we feel we need, except they were vertical, not horizontal. Another had beautiful views, a great house, but was back 10 miles of dirt road. And so on. That’s all to be expected and we only need one house.

(left flank of St. Mary’s Glacier, 2007.  St Mary’s Glacier is located 9.2 miles north of Idaho Springs in the Clear Creek Ranger District of the Arapaho National Forest. The glacier – technically a large perennial snowfield – is a popular year-round destination open to hiking, skiing, glissading, climbing and sledding.)

She has settled on St. Mary’s Glacier as the key area on which we should focus our search. That’s helpful because it narrows the field and makes paying attention much easier.

I’ll be glad to have her back home. We all miss her.

Nocturne

Summer                                                            Most Heat Moon

Another bookshelf packed up and about a third of another. Kate called with more news from Colorado, visits to Golden and Idaho Springs, another realtor whom she liked even more than the last one. Tomorrow she plans a trip between Boulder and Golden on the advice of Ann Beck, today’s realtor.

Mary and I tried to eat at that Gasthof in Northeast, but it was closed for some reason. The parking at the Red Stag was impossible. So we ended up at the Aster in St. Anthony Main. After the meal, we walked out to St. Anthony Falls and watched the power of the Upper Mississippi express itself in churning foam and water spilling, fast and powerful.

Kepler has begun to settle in, not even barking at Mary. It seems Ruth and Jon’s visit made him aware that we get visitors and that he doesn’t need to announce each one. He spent time downstairs with me today, helping me pack. Tonight he’ll sleep on the bed with me since Kate’s not in her place.

These nocturnes will, I imagine, have a different flavor with mountains around and, possibly, a night sky clear of light pollution. May it be so.

Unreliable?

Summer                                                  Most Heat Moon

Forgot to mention that there was a hint of unreliability in Kate’s information yesterday. The realtor told her that many who lived at altitude, 6,500-8,000 feet above sea level, didn’t have air conditioners. They use ceiling fans, exhaust fans and cross ventilation. Since Kate recounted this with no apparent reservation or exclamation, I concluded that she may not be wholly with it. Maybe the altitude?

Today there’s a bit more of the neither here nor thereness in my heart. It’s due, I know, to Kate’s work in Colorado, getting the Colorado part more in focus, and Jon and Ruth’s visit. Living in the move works when I can balance the work here with a focus there now and then. When Colorado moves into the foreground, it can tip me out of the liminal space-living in the move-and into that uncomfortable not here, not there feeling.

 

 

Nocturne

Summer                                                       Most Heat Moon

The most heat moon has presided over a distinctly non-hot week so far. We beat the daily low yesterday by nine degrees! Nine. Today was cool and comfortable, too. Much like I imagine living at 7800 feet would be.                                                                                              Kate met with a realtor today and got some advice about looking along the I-70 corridor 10 miles either way west of Denver. Sounds fine to me. My criteria are already in place. The exact location in the state is not so important to me as having broad band, room for dogs, room for a garden and bees, space for Kate and me both to have our private spaces and so on.

Having her out there for this week will give us valuable information for our search next year when we will need to hone in on one place. Sounds like she’s having fun. How do I know? She said she’s tired. That means she had a good day.