Healing Friends

Winter                                                                          Cold Moon

The healing power of friends.  Not a big thing in the flow of life, but I felt a little down today.  A function mostly of my 1:00 am vigil beside our ailing furnace and its attendant physician.  Being tired translates into some negative self-talk, feelings.  They relate to that long, long time in my life, say from 19-30 and, to some extent, beyond that, when anxiety dominated my life, when I went to sleep with a small, glowing chunk of metal in my gut, often waking and unable to return to sleep.  Now these feelings return only with long intervals between and often only briefly.

Tonight though I went into Minneapolis feeling achy and out of sorts, not really wanting to drive the 40 minutes into Christo’s, a Greek restaurant.  [interesting side note here: 1827, from French restaurant “a restaurant” (said to have been used in Paris c.1765 by Boulanger), originally “food that restores,” noun use of prp. of restaurer “to restore or refresh,” from Old French restorer] I met for supper with Warren and Scott and Tom.

We talked, we listened, we saw each other.  When I left, two hours later, I felt refreshed, restored.  Dining with friends.  Healing.

The Most Amazing Thing

Winter                                                                   Cold Moon

What’s the most amazing thing you ever saw with your own eyes?  Question posed by the weekly calendar I mentioned a couple of days ago.

Interesting question.  30 years or so ago I was at the bedside of a dying woman.  Her son was there, too.  She was an irascible, even ornery person, though with a flint core of honesty.

She and her son were not particularly close and I knew her through regular visits to the senior citizen high rise in the Cedar-Riverside neighborhood.  Part of my work with the West Bank Ministry.

She had lapsed into the labored breathing so often preceding death.

We, the son and I, stood beside her bed, taken completely by the final drama.  Finally, she raised up a bit, sighed and breathed no more.

That moment was so peaceful, intimate, and spiritual, a moment of profound and universal transition, it transformed both of us.  At least for a while.

We went down to the cafeteria, drank coffee.  Quietly.  Bonded.  I saw him a few more times, conducted a brief service for her.  Then we went our separate ways.

Why choose this moment?  I’m not sure, but its finality juxtaposed with its peacefulness combined to create an electric, vital moment.  Maybe it was the injection of hope that my own end could be so graceful.  Maybe it was the awe-ful and final intimacy of such a time.

I’m not sure it’s the most thing I’ve ever seen with my own eyes, but it’s up there, for sure.