the moon

Summer                                                                    Solstice Moon

The super moon has come and gone, the moon only its normal lunarity tonight.  Deciding that each moon at perigee is a super moon strains the adjective too far.  The marginally larger and closer moon would be truer.

The lead up to the super moon did reignite my never far dormant moon watching passion.  This Japanese ritual seems very well suited to life’s third phase.  Quiet, dignified, can be done without glasses at home.  No money changes hands.  A glass of tea, or a shot of single malt, a beer.  Some cheese and the moon beside us on the deck.

As our closest neighbor in the overwhelming emptiness that is our universe, the moon has a special place, a unique place in our lives.  It illumines the night, goes through its phases each lunar month, defining tides and creating romantic moments.

I’m finding it hard to describe why the moon fascinates me so much.  Not about astronomy.  Or moon walks.  Something about its floating, silvery presence.  A silent partner to the dark its moods changes with the seasons.  The floating harvest moon, round and large and orange differs from the white full moon that passes through the cold skies of the winter solstice time.  The moon of the summer can preside over long evenings outside, a dim lantern providing just the right amount of just the right kind of light.

It also figures in story and myth.  The goddess Diana and her crescent moon, which appears in so many portraits of the virgin mary, especially our Lady of Guadalupe.  Lon Chaney’s version of the Wolfman:  “Even a man who is pure at heart, and says his prayers by night, may become a wolf when the wolfbane blooms and the autumn moon is bright.”

Not quite getting there and I’m tired.  Will try again soon.

Coming Up From the Deep

Summer                                                                                   Solstice Moon

In the decompression zone.  Visits from family, any family, are occasions for renewal of ties and creation of new memories.  Further sticky material for the mysterious field that defines often faraway people as belonging to each other.  Both Mark and the Denver Olsons were here this last week.  Now they’re both gone.

Introverts like Kate and I have a doubled experience each time.  That is, we greet visitors and embrace them, eager to hear the latest news and have some new experiences together; but, too, we find our quiet and our routine disrupted.  Even our physical space.  That creates a tension, overlaid by the unusual such as cooking for 8, getting a driver’s license test, building bonfires, navigating to new destinations.

That means leave taking has a doubled sense, too.  Sadness at good-bye, but also relief as the quiet returns and the day’s rhythms return to their norm.  Of course, feeling relief when loved ones go can generate guilt, but for introverts that guilt has to be parsed with the knife of one’s true nature.  Sadness is just that, sadness.  And relief, well, that just means we are who we are.

Go Now, The Visit Has Ended

Summer                                                                           Solstice Moon

Standing in the driveway with Kate, waving at the grandkids and Jon and Jen as they took off for the Corn Palace, I felt like Norman Rockwell should be here, getting this down in paint. Kona, our old whippet, was there, too, probably relieved that Gabe, who grabbed the “little dog’s” collar and led her around, was on the way to some other place.

(last night at Running Aces)

I will remember drinking hamburger tea with Gabe in the playhouse, smores around the fire, Thomas and Allison’s visit, our night at Running Aces, hugs from Ruth and from Gabe, lots of them, conversations with Jon and Jen.

This is a functional family.  No Virginia Satir necessary.  And that’s saying something given the families of origin for both Jon and Jen.  They’ve taken difficult childhoods and created a safe, loving, enriching haven for their own kids.  Kudos to them.

Remembering my own visits to my grandparents, hazy memories at best, I couldn’t help wondering what sort of memories Gabe and Ruth took with them as they left.  Probably not the ones I imagine.

I say that because one of my strongest memories of my Grandfather Keaton is of him in green flannel underware with buttons at the back, boiling sugar in water on the stove to make syrup, then sitting down to drink his coffee from the saucer.