The I Get Big and Strong Story

Beltane                                    Waxing Planting Moon

In this month’s Atlantic an article investigates teen-age girls and the hook-up culture they now must navigate.   Written by the daughter of an early feminist the article identifies the reason girls swim in this often self-destructive ocean is the Boyfriend Story.  Teen girls today, as teen girls yesterday and of years ago, want to find a real, true, pure love–the Boyfriend Story.  Never having been a teen-age girl and not having raised a daughter, I don’t feel qualified to assess the accuracy of the author’s premise.

It did get me to wondering though.  What’s the story that propels teen-age boys?  It’s not the Girlfriend Story, I know that much for sure.  It might be the I Get Big and Strong Story.  In this story the hero does not seek real, true, pure love, but the vehicle for becoming a man, usually a career focused drive, different in substance and in direction than the Boyfriend Story, but a story that puts teen-age boys on life’s highway like deer in front of an oncoming 18-wheeler just as surely as the Boyfriend Story puts girls on the same highway, facing down the same oncoming truck, just one carrying a different load.

I remember high school, hoping good grades would make the I Get Big and Strong story happen for me.  If that wasn’t it, maybe it would be acting.  I did Our Town and had to learn to walk like an adult.  If neither of those worked out, it could be leadership.  The class president had to amount to something, didn’t he?

The I Get Big and Strong story is a not we story, it is an I story.  As the teen-age girl runs up on the shoals in search of a partner, the teen-age boy hits the rocks alone while fending off the competition, making himself bigger, faster, stronger, smarter, cleverer.

What do you think?  What is the boy’s equivalent of the Boyfriend Story?

Permaculture and the Natural World

Beltane                          Waxing Planting Moon

I’ve not written about permaculture in a while.  The orchard has clover all over, including in some of the plant guilds, but they seem intact.  It has changed the view from our kitchen, a productive part of our property now sits just outside our windows.  The bees fit in well to the permaculture process because they  fertilize the fruits: apples, pears, cherries, blueberries, currants, quince, gooseberries, raspberries and strawberries.

In a modest sense, given the small number of our fruit producing plants, the bee/fruit blossom connection is a complete one.  The fruit grows in our soil, blooms here, the bee comes, collects nectar and in the process fertilizes the fruit.  The fertilized fruit grows large to encase the fertilized seeds.  The bee returns to the hive, uses the nectar and pollen from the fruit blossoms to feed larvae and make honey.  When we eat the honey, the circle includes us in a direct and intimate way.

In a similar way the plant guilds, selections of plants that complement each other by warding off predatory insects, attracting beneficial insects, setting nitrogen and micronutrients into the soil, also have a circle of benefit that, in turn, helps us produce healthy vegetables for our table.  Our gardens and orchard have a more modest impact on our overall diet than a larger plot could, but the very act of growing and eating at least some of our food makes us more conscious of everything we eat.

There is another strong positive, too, perhaps the most important one of all, at least for me.  By working with plants that have specific needs, specific soil temperatures, water requirements, nutrients, length of growing season, protection from pests Kate and I have to orient our lives to their rhythms.  No matter what we do, a plant needs to be planted when it needs to be planted.  It needs thinning when it needs thinning, pruning when it needs pruning.  When harvest comes, it too must be done in a timely manner or the whole process will have gone for not.

The bees, too, have their cycles of birth, maturation and decline.  To work with bees we have to take them as they are, not as we would wish them to be.  We  work with them according to their ancientrails, ones laid down thousands, even millions of years ago and ones to which we adapt, not the other way around.

This act of submission to what could be called biological imperatives does not, surprisingly, chain us, rather, in that wonderfully contradictory way, it frees us to become an active part in nature’s ongoingness.  We become an active partner rather than a dominator, yet another living thing dancing to the music of cold and heat, wet and dry, light and dark.

Yes, it is, of course true, that we run our air conditioner in the summer and our furnace in the winter.  Yes, we refrigerate some of our food.  We close our doors so that we don’t dance to the buzzing and whirring of insects also part of nature’s minuets, gavottes and tangos.  So, no, we are not pure, but that is in fact the human dilemma. We are part of nature, able to respond to and participate in her rhythms, yet we are also creatures of culture, the complex web we weave to make our home on this planet.

This tension creates an angst we sometimes know only when we stand on a cliff’s edge, look out toward the ocean and see the sun sink below the water’s blue margin.  It is an unresolvable angst, this in but not entirely of nature realm we inhabit.  It is, I would argue, an angst that we must embrace, not push away.  Why?  Because pushing away our delicate problem has created an ecological disaster that just may scour us off the face of mother earth.  That’s a good reason, I think.

Heirlooms. Better Eating, Better Seeds

Beltane                                    Waxing Planting Moon

Got some plants in the mail.  I didn’t start anything from seed this last winter after starting way too many the season before.  Maybe this winter I’ll hit a happy medium.  These are heirloom plants, so I can save the seeds and plant them next year.  Would somebody remind me to do that when fall comes around?

The flower garden has gotten the short end of the stick this spring and it shows.  Weeds and grass in places where there should be neither.  While Kate’s away, I plan to get some work done on the flowers since the vegetable garden will be planted, irrigation problems are largely resolved and I signed out of the Museum for the two Fridays she’s gone.

We do have a lot of things growing.  The leeks have jumped up as have the sugar snap peas, beets, onions, fennel, mustard greens, garlic, parsnip, strawberries, apples, pears, cherries, currants, quince and blueberries.  The radicchio, thyme, dill, rosemary,  flat parsley and lavender are also off to a good start.  The potatoes are, as they say, in the trenches and we await their emergence.  The whole fruit group is still relatively new to us since the orchard is in its third growing season, but only beginning to actually bear fruit.  A lot of critters have evolved that love fruit:  insects, fungi, birds.  Just how much predation we can expect is still unknown.

I got an e-mail back from Gary Reuter at the U about the comb I photographed.  “The bees,” he said, “are making extra comb.  Take it off.”

The red car went in for its 260,000 mile check up today.  It’s in fine shapes with the exception of a little bit baling wire and bubble gum necessary for the next 100,000 miles.   Toyota dealerships are not intrinsically happy places right now, but they’ve always done well by us and I appreciate them.