Category Archives: Family

The Post Office Was Gone

Spring                Full Seed Moon

The folks at the Strib have asked those of us who blog for their weatherwatchers page to write up a storm story or two, a reminder of the forces of nature coming at us in the next few months.  As I’ve thought about this task, my own patronizing wonderment at folks who live on fault lines, in the path of hurricanes, or build homes in fire prone forest areas came to mind.

So, I’m going to start with a proper dose of humility, admitting that I, too, live in a place where nature can play havoc and let loose the dogs of war from time to time, yet I stay where I am.   After all we frequently get those 20 below zero or worse bouts of cold weather, often driven further down the temperature scale by high winds.  In the summer tornadoes and hail storms pound our area, so much so that we have a new roof and new siding after a bout with hail and tornadoes touched down within two miles of  our home, pretty damned close if you ask me.  That’s not to mention the weather that can and has punched us up the worst:  derechos.  These straight line winds reach speeds in excess of 58 mph.

Sorry about all those sarcastic comments southern California, west coast of Florida, San Francisco.

I’ll write one story today and few others over the week.

The first storm memory I have comes not from Minnesota, nor from Indiana where I grew up, but from Oklahoma, where I was born and still have family.   In 1956 or 57 my parents sent by Greyhound bus from our home in Alexandria, Indiana to Mustang, Oklahoma, then a rural community a good ways from Oklahoma City.  My uncle Rheford had the post-office attached to the front of his house and served as the rural mail carrier for the Mustang area.

Uncle Rheford and Aunt Ruth had, as many Oklahoma homes still do, a storm cellar located in the back yard, a dug-out with a cement floor and heavy barn doors covering the entrance.  During calm weather, most of the time, the storm cellar serves as a root cellar and a place to store canned goods, so it always smelled of stored produce and damp earth.

A few nights after I’d arrived, around 3 in the morning my cousin Jane came into my room, shook me awake, “Come on, Charles Paul, we’ve got to go to the storm cellar.”  Her urgency and the hour got me up fast.  I followed her out into rain and wind, crossed the few feet from the back door to the storm cellar and hurried down the four or five steps into this small, artificial cave.  My Aunt Ruth and two other cousins were already down there and Uncle Rheford followed quick behind Jane and me.

Uncle Rheford closed the doors with a thud, threw a large cast-iron bolt to lock them and put a cross piece into two metal brackets made for that purpose.  He also grabbed a chain and passed it through two eye-bolts, big ones, sunk into either door.  The end of the chain went around and hooked into another bolt that was part of the cement floor.  A little too sleepy and a little too young to be awed by all this preparation I sat down on a bench near a basket of potatoes.

The wind came.  The tornado must have passed right over us or very close because those heavy barn doors bowed up, called from their position by the voice of the storm.  The chain thrummed tight and the air left the cellar.  Then, just as it had come, the wind passed on by, the doors slumped back to their usual shape, slack came into the chain and sweet air rushed back into the cellar and to our lungs.

I don’t recall now how long we were in the cellar, probably an hour or so, maybe more.  After we got out we came up to a wet, distressed scene with leaves, tree branches, parts of buildings and machinery scattered in the  lawn.  The big surprise though came when we looked around the house.  The post-office, basically a long addition to the side of the house that faced the road, was gone.  Disappeared.  The rest of the house was intact.

In the days that passed I saw straw driven into telephone poles and other flotsam thrown up on the shore of this small Oklahoma town.  From that day forward I have always heeded instructions to go to the basement, remembering that night in the storm cellar in Mustang, Oklahoma.

Grandma Told Me So

Spring            Waxing Seed Moon

Kate is home.  As is our habit, I met her at the Loon Cafe after she took the LRT into downtown.  To park I went in a ramp, promptly scored the first parking spot, which allowed me later to just pull around a concrete pylon, turn left and give my money to the cashier.  Very cool.

The other amazing part was the rat in the maze experience.  Getting out of the ramp I exited onto a skyway, walked until I found Butler Square, went into Butler Square, wound through a few hallways, found the entrance, exited, then turned left and went one block to the Loon Cafe.  The truly amazing part was that after Kate and I had supper I reversed field and followed the path back to the truck without a misstep.

I’m glad to have her back.  This tooth business has been a hassle and I wanted to complain to somebody about it, but she wasn’t here and who else would listen?  I complained for about a minute over supper and that was enough.

Ruth is a prodigy, capable of astounding feats of linguistic and muscular agility.  I know this because Grandma told me so.

Gabe is the cutest, friendliest baby ever.  I know this because Grandma told me so.

Grandma loves being a grandma.  ditto.

The Decider

Spring           New Moon (seed moon)

“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.” – Theodore Roosevelt

Kate is a good decider(unlike the other Decider).  She makes a decision a second if necessary.  Somewhere along the line she and Teddy Roosevelt must have drunk the same water.  I’m a muller and wonderer.  It’s nice to have two different decision making styles at home because it allows a long view and a necessary, lets do it now attitude to reinforce each other.

Two iconoclasts have crossed my way of late.  Freeman Dyson is one.  He’s a really smart guy, a physicist and an employee of the Institute for Advanced Studies at Princeton.  He’s written all sorts of stuff; I’ve read his essays, but none of his books.  He thinks global warming is real, but that the radical consequences predicted are not.  One telling aspect of his critique involves the notion of climate models.  He claims that assumptions used to build those systems are not accurate.  If the assumptions are no good, the model can not be.  I don’t know the science, but he’s a guy whose thought matters.

I’ve not changed my mind.  At least not yet.  But he has made me wary.

The second is a Patrick Moore, a founder of Green Peace and now, ironically, a supporter of nuclear power.  In an article published in 2006 he makes the argument about base-load generation that I mentioned a couple of days ago.  He seems to think nuclear is the only generative source with enough oomph to replace coal in the interim between now and an eventual switch to renewables.  I found his arguments less compelling.  He seems to think reprocessing is a reasonable solution to the waste problem, but a Scientific American I read this week points out many problems with reprocessing, not the least of which is that it produces plutonium, material useful in a bomb.

It’s good to have received wisdom challenged by reputable people, it sharpens the debate and makes everyone think more clearly.

Blest Be The Tie That Binds

Spring                New Moon  (seed moon)

The notion of legacy, Frank’s question from last Woolly meeting, has rolled over one more time in my thought.  While resuming watching the Mahabarata, Time (the narrator of this long epic) comments on family as a garland.  A family is like a garland, made of individual flowers, but joined by a common thread.  The thread, he says, should be invisible, and the flowers’ scents and colors, though distinct, must not clash.

It made me think of the thread in our family, rather than the individual flowers.  In the West we spend so much time growing, cultivating, nourishing the flowers we often forget about, neglect the thread.  In Chinese culture the family name comes first, then the given name.  I mentioned a woman I called Ming Miao to a Chinese acquaintance who thought a moment, then said, “Oh, Miao Ming!”  This difference is not subtle, it lies in the way we name ourselves.

To complicate matters even more the thread has become a cord in our  3rd millennial realm of shifting family ties, divorce, single parents and adoption.  Perhaps the musical metaphor would serve better here, individual family members as notes and the link between them all a Wagnerian leitmotif.

This section of the Mahabarata has made me wonder about spending time nourishing the thread, the cord, the leitmotif.  I’m not sure I even know where to begin.  Two ideas pushed themselves forward at once.  The first, stimulated by Roy Wolf, the host of our sheepshead game, involves regular communication in writing with grandchildren.  He writes each grandchild a letter once a week.

The second came forward from another prod in the Mahabarata.  The sage has a key role at this point in Indian history, especially in his role as teacher and as an advisor to kings and princes.  In commenting on the purpose of the sage Dronacharya noted that learning alone has no purpose; learning must be shared.  “The river,” he said, “cannot fit in one vessel.”

One of the links in my family, from both the Ellis and Keaton side, is a long tradition of teachers.  My grandmother Ellis was a teacher.  My mother was a teacher.  Many of my cousins on both sides are teachers as are my brother and sister.  Jon and Jen are both teachers.  The teaching occurs at all levels from elementary school through graduate school, but teachers have a major presence in all my family links including Jon and Jen.

There is, too, the art of taking in knowledge and passing it on through different forms of vocational practice:  medicine, military, clergy.  That too is a mark of my family.  These three are the oldest and in some person’s definitions, the only, professions.  Professing and sustaining the traditions of medicine, warrior and person of faith also teach, but outside of the educational establishment.

OK.  Let’s say that teaching or transfer of knowledge is somehow the link, or at least a strong part of the link.  Now what? Don’t know right now, but this seems important to  me.

Kate

Spring       New Moon (Seed Moon)

This year’s vegetable garden, part of it anyhow, continues to grow under the lights.  We’re still eating onions and garlic from last year’s crop and this year we plan to have even more stored food.  Of course, we’ve had  canned tomatoes, cucumbers, relish and jelly for several years.  Kate’s got the Iowa farm kitchen thing goin’ on.

Speaking of Kate, she got her first commission for a quilt this week.  A woman liked her work on a memorial quilt for a four-year old who died suddenly and asked her if she would make a quilt for her daughter commemorating her soft ball team.  She’s apparently played with these same girls since junior high or so.  Kate’s got a big heart and she’s done two quilts recently, the memorial quilt and a quilt for a colleague with multiple myeloma that involved many, many hearts signed by his friends and patients that show it.

She’s a crafty lady. Kate makes shirts, dresses, bags from felt and cloth, cans, cooks like a gourmet and is a mean hand with a trowel.  Not to mention that medical thing.

The dogs have begun to lobby for lunch.  I’m gonna feed them and then go the grocery store myself.

Family and Friends, All of It

Spring          New Moon

“A person writing at night may put out the lamp, but the words he has written will remain. It is the same with the destiny we create for ourselves in this world.” — Shakyamuni

Paul Strickland and I sat at the Origami eating noodles and sushi.  We muttered about the AIG bonuses, parsed some recent appearances by Obama and then veered into the realm of faith.  Paul remains a committed Christian and I have long since fallen away.

“I miss the assurance and comfort faith gave me,” I admitted to Paul, “but it’s a bell I can’t unring.”  He looked at me with a trace of doubt about how to proceed.  Such admissions tempt the faithful to evangelize, but Paul steered a path away from temptation.  He refers to God as the Great Spirit, a nod, I imagine, to his Cherokee heritage.

We went on to the nature of time.  He commented on the strange notion of simultaneity, which apparently he and I both embrace.  That is, everything that ever happened and will happen are, at each moment, all in existence.  This odd idea proceeds for me from the notion of conservation, nothing is ever lost, matter and energy constantly in transition from one state to another, but never exhausted.

There was other stuff, too, but in the end we got up, two older men, baby boomers approaching retirement age, and commented on the way out of this Japanese restaurant that family and friends, that was it, all of it.


The Acid and Whitehead Days

Imbolc     Waxing Moon of Winds

A week of constant preparation, meetings, thought has come to a close.  Tomorrow Kate and I will celebrate our 19th anniversary.  We’ll have dinner at Osaka, then drive into Orchestra Hall to hear the Wynton Marsalis Jazz Band interpret Theolonius Monk.

Back in those days, the acid and Whitehead days, a group of us went to Cincinnati for the Cincinnati Jazz Festival.   Herbie Mann.  Thelonius Monk.  John Coltrane.  We stayed on Mt. Adams where the streets have names like Celestial Avenue, Paradise Lane, Seraphim Street.  We smoked a lot of dope and drank in the jazz.  Since then, I have considered those artists the main line to my soul, especially Coltrane.

Bed Time.  Good night.

A Pain

Winter             Waxing Wild Moon

Kate’s neck has begun to hurt again.  I hope it doesn’t mean the nerve root block has lost its potency, but it might.  Where we go after that we don’t know right now.

Errands and business meeting in the AM.  Nap and Sierra Club research in the PM.  Workout, then a bit of TV.  Now, off to bed.

A Source of Mutual Creativity and Emotional Support

15  steep rise 30.31  NNW2  windchill 14  Winter

Waxing Gibbous Wolf Moon

Kate has responded well to the injections.  She is pain free and giddy about it right now.  She bought me supper at Canyon Grille tonight.  A nice place and good to be out with her.   We reaffirmed our love for each other and the joy we have in our relationship, a source of mutual creativity and emotional support.   This pain has been constant since early November so it is difficult to overstate the relief she feels.

That was the high point of the day.

Finished The Given Day by Dennis Lehane yesterday and began White Tiger, a book recommended by Woollies Charlie Haislet and Paul Strickland.  A good read for those of you in Southeast Asia.  An Indian entrepreneur communicates his life story to the premier of China via e-mail.

Much to do tomorrow, then preaching on Sunday.  We’ll see how Homecomer goes over.

Winter Happy

7  rises 29.48  WNW2  wchill 5  Winter light snow

Waxing Gibbous Wolf Moon

The seeds for the 2009 vegetable garden sit on my desk beside me in piles according to growth habit:  viny, climbing, bushy, root or leafy.  When I get the chance, they’ll go in my homemade database with pertinent data and places to record germination, first bloom, first fruit and eventual production.  I’ve gardened for years, but never taken this much care.  Why now?  Not sure.

Kate’s off to see the physiatrist in Elk River.  I hope he suggests some things that help her. She’s going to stop by Cottage Quilts on the way home.

I’m off to the cities this morning to count ballots for the ex-com and see Michelle.  Michelle liked my first draft of the legislative updates, so it will go out Sunday evening.   Many more to follow.

A light snow this morning, enough to make the outdoors beautiful and wintry.  This kind of winter makes me happy.