Category Archives: Family

Nocturne

Summer                                                              Most Heat Moon

Tonight the quiet has a slight sadness, an emptying of the home awaits only sunrise, at Kate1000least an emptying of Jon, Ruth and Kate. The Left Behind, myself and the dogs, will have to go on after.  There is, yes, a freedom, but one only good if temporary and limited. I’ll take the time to plan, work in the garden, translate, send out Missing to more agents.

These times when Kate and I are apart, caused most often by our mutual love of dogs, underline the wonder in the often fragile institution of marriage: a bond between two creates a third thing, a more than the sum, a whole greater than the parts, a love which stands with them, a support, a consolation, a joy, a silent partner.

Said another way, I’ll miss her.

 

Dragons and Corned Beef

Summer                                                                 Most Heat Moon

The new Sienna (2011, but new to Jon and Jen) has been loaded. Ruth and I went to the grocery store to buy supplies for the road. There will be pumpernickel and corned beef sandwiches, dill pickle potato chips and Krave cereal for Ruth.

Ruth and I had a talk about dragons and books about dragons on the way to the store. I recommended a recent read, His Majesty’s Dragon. She recommended back the Mysterious Benedict Society. It’s fun to have a grandchild old enough to share books.

They will lift off tomorrow around 7 am, headed west, forerunners to our own, larger move, following in Jon’s now long ago wake. That means Kep, Vega, Rigel and Gertie and I will have the house to ourselves until next Saturday.

Rules of the Game

Summer                                                         Most Heat Moon

Ruth and I played blackjack tonight. I dealt and she still won. Just going into third grade,2011 09 11_1118 her math skills are more than up to the game and her betting showed some uncanny, if randomly lucky, skills, too. She had played some version of the game in school with her teacher, but the real game is a bit harsher, less forgiving. That’s the one I play and the one I taught her.

Cards have been part of my life since I began delivering newspapers. My parents weren’t game players of any sort, so all the card skills I’ve developed came away from home. Starting at age 8, I would gather with ten or fifteen other young boys in a wooden shed where we waited while the old press rumbled through the daily run of the Alexandria Times-Tribune. Sometimes the web would break, the web is a v-shaped piece of metal that folded the newsprint as it came through the press, ready to become a newspaper. This would require much cussing and hurrying on the part of the printers, but it also meant that sometimes our games extended well past the usual half hour or so.

Later, in junior high I began playing poker with a regular group of guys and our game continued through high school. Once in college I veered toward bridge, playing duplicate bridge in a local league and endless hands in an endless game in the student union. After college, the people I knew well, my friends and work colleagues, didn’t play cards, so I set aside that long history.

Only lately, in the past 4 or 5 years, have I picked up regular cards again, playing the five handed version of sheepshead that I report on here occasionally.

Still, I have many hours of card playing behind me and the memory of it has given me an excellent “card sense.” Card sense carries across various sorts of games and refers to an intuitive knowledge of how a hand might develop.

I may not knit or sew, have carpentry skills or fix-it talent, but I can teach my grandchildren how to gamble. An odd realization, but there it is.

 

The Johnson/Olson Clan

Summer                                                      Most Heat Moon

The deck continues. Ruth’s out building a house using found materials while her Dad drives screws into cedar decking. Kate’s asleep for her nap, but I’m awake, an hour or two shy of a full night’s sleep. Kate’s sister Anne is out pruning the crab apple tree. This Johnson/Olson clan loves working. Or, at least, they work a lot.

Jon kvetches about the heat and the humidity and how Denver is better. But I reminded him of the 107 degree days I’ve experienced out there in August and early September. Oh, yeah. Well, it gets hot some. A dry 107 degree heat will cook a chicken, too.

Meanwhile, I’m downstairs, my head in Ovid, wrestling with declensions and conjugations rather than electric drills and Japanese saws. To each their own.

 

New Entertainment

Summer                                                   Most Heat Moon

Kate and I have a new screen related entertainment: looking at photographs of properties in Colorado. As we’ve winnowed our search criteria, a surprising one recommended by Jon, has popped up. Live around 8,000 feet. I may have mentioned that here before. It knocks the top off the high temperatures. With my hyper-Norwegian wife that sounds ideal.

He did point out gardening can be tougher at altitude because sudden snow storms can pop up late into the summer months. I’ve begun considering rolling hoops over the garden beds to protect plants from sudden temperature change and from the more potent sun in mid-summer. They will probably prove necessary there. Cold frames, too, perhaps.

I asked Ruth, if she could live wherever she wanted in Colorado, where would it be? She had a quick answer. “Close to A-basin.” A-basin is the skiing area associated with the Arapaho Basin. So, we’re looking at homes in the Idaho Springs, Georgetown, Clear Creek County area, too. This way Jon and Ruth could drive up on an evening before the morning rush on Saturday, stay overnight with us, then leave at a reasonable hour to ski. A possibility.

It’s interesting how having them here has pushed the move more into the foreground of our lives. It’s been a background for so much of what we’ve done this last couple of months, but the end result has seemed far away. With Jon and Ruth’s presence we can feel what having them around more would be like.

Fireworks at home

Summer                                                            Most Heat Moon

Turns out old fireworks, kept dry, work just fine. We sent up fountains and pyramids and sparklers and butterflies. It was a magnesium fueled fun fest made safe by the wettest June ever.

Ruth had a couple of good interchanges. When her Dad told her she knew so much he wouldn’t have to tell her anything, she said, “Dad, just because I know things doesn’t meant that’s bad.”  uh, hmmm.

Then, when a particular firework did something dangerous, she said, “Oh, it’s more fun when they’re dangerous.” Every parents’ dream sentence from an 8 year old daughter.

The firepit got a good workout tonight. The dogs stayed up late and we all had a great time. Food from Famous Dave’s, a barbecue feast for four. Gunpowder thanks to the Chinese a really long time ago.

 

Light

Summer                                                               Most Heat Moon

Under what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. Jon’s recent brush with pulmonary 205370_10150977727553020_150695969_nhypertension pushed him into dark territory and he came out from his excursion with some light. First, he said, he was ok with dying, mostly he was sad about leaving the kids behind. It frightened him, too, but not in a paralyzing way. The unknown has its terrifying side and he looked into that, realized its inevitability and said, all right. That’s seeing the face of life’s most troublesome enigma and smiling back at it.

Too, he said, he thought about what he might change if his life had a shorter horizon than he imagined. His answer? Nothing. His Colorado life, one created by his love of skiing, now includes his family, his home and his teaching. He’s been at the same school for 15 years and has just completed renovating his home.    He did the finishing work almost completely, from plumbing and tiling to building cabinet tops and a dining room table. It’s a good thing to learn at mid-life, that the way you are in the world is the way you want to be in the world. Not everyone can say that.

 

Ruth

Summer                                                                    Most Heat Moon

Sitting on the couch tonight, I had a conversation with Ruth. She helped her dad with the 2011 01 09_1223deck today, so I said, “You could be a carpenter.” She said, “I could.” Paused. “But I want to be a scientist. Or a science teacher.” “In elementary or college or?” “College.” she said with a definitive tone.

We talked about Benjamin Franklin and the Franklin stove, Davinci and his ornithopter, Edison and the phonograph and the light bulb. She studied inventions by famous inventors in a program called GEMS, Girls Excelling in Math and Science. This is an hour and a half after school, two nights a week. She loved it.

Ruth is fresh and eager, a learner already excited, seeking. 8 years old. What a privilege to share her life.

A Naked Deck

Summer                                                          Most Heat Moon

Jon and his friend, Max, worked together years ago as the “monkey boys” of Dave Schlegel’s house renovation crew. They did this and that, both learning a lot about how to do various necessary household work. Today they’re putting those skills to work replacing our deck surface and a fence. Right now the deck is naked, wearing only its braces under the hot July sun.

Gertie wanted to go out, so I let her outside through the garage and into the orchard. But when it came time for her to come back in she crawled between two braces and followed the space between them to the back door where she leaped up and came in the kitchen. She wasn’t going to let a few missing boards get in the way of her usual route back inside.

This is a wonderful gift they’re giving us.

Great news. Good news. Not so good news.

Summer                                                               Most Heat Moon

The good, no, great news. Jon’s heart is fine. No pulmonary hypertension. An electrocardiogram.

The good news. Jon and Ruth are here for the weekend while Jon resurfaces our deck and puts up a new fence between the deck and the perennial garden.

The not so good news. July 4th is a nightmare of astraphobic dogs and their owners. Us, for example. Plus tonight we also added two new humans to the mix. So Kepler, the Akita, usually calm and quiet, barked and barked. Then Gertie barks. When we put the dogs in their crates, both Gertie and Vega, calm methodical Vega, broke out of their crates, something neither one ever does, never even tries to do. This was during the fireworks part of the evening.

So things are, as Elvis used to say, all shook up. Hopefully by tomorrow they’ll calm down. Of course, Jon will be working on the deck, which is the main way the dogs get in and out of the house. Ah, maybe Sunday or Monday?