Imbolc and the 3/4 Moon
Thursday gratefuls: Forgot Wednesday. David Sanders. Jodi. The new kitchen. The furniture rearranging and moving. Herme going on the wall sometime in March. Along with that Arts and Crafts chandelier being hung. Kep. A very good boy. Rigel, returned to her constellation. Kate, always Kate. Snow and Cold. A Minnesota winter week for Shadow Mountain. Great sleeping.
Sparks of Joy and Awe: The heart/mind
Tarot: The Knight of Bows
I’m a fence sitter when it comes to ideas. I can hold the polarities, as kabbalah teaches, but when it comes to saying yes to something like the soul, I shy away.
Seems it went like this. Freshman philosophy at Wabash. All those proofs for the existence of God that Father Ed gave me my senior year of high school. That I loved. That seemed clear and irrefutable. Pretty refutable. After that, Camus.
Reinforcing Camus was the flat earth metaphysics of the logic positivists and the linguistic analysts. Wittgenstein: That of which we cannot speak, we must be silent. I inhaled.
No god. Or, if there was one they weren’t very good at their job. Anyhow, I became an enlightenment guy, empiricist full stop. Skeptical, sometimes veering into nihilism, sometimes cynicism. Actually, a sort of lonely place.
Appleton, Wisconsin. Married, deeply unhappy. Working in a paper mill cutting rags to make paper for the U.S. Treasury. Drinking way too much. Trying to live with the open marriage I entered into willingly. In my head. But not in my heart. In a city I could not embrace.
Judy and I decided to part ways, but not divorce. I’d find politics and the church. The politics led me to seminary. A Kierkegaardian moment gave me a window into the Christian faith without having to accept the metaphysics. I’d live as if I believed.
Worked. I took a deep, deep dive into Christian theology, ethics, mystical thought. Practiced several forms of mediation like lectio divina, the Jesus Prayer, contemplating the ineffability of God.
Worked until it didn’t. I began searching in my heritage, my Celtic heritage for writing ideas. Found the Great Wheel of the Seasons. This time I not only inhaled. I held it in. Got giddy. A new way of looking at the world, an animistic way, a pagan way. Not Christian. Oops.
Not like Judaism. Where your belief in God is your business. Even for Rabbi’s. Had to bale. Lucky I met Kate. She gave me a parachute out of a difficult situation. Kate though.
She was a flat earther, too. A scientist. A mathematician. A healer. And my love. She took to the animist idea, the live close to the earth, live with animals. Dogs in particular. Bees. We loved each other into the land of Andover. Growing vegetables. Planting an orchard. Making our own cutting gardens. Seeding much of our front yard with prairie flowers and grasses. Harvesting honey. Building a fire pit for those cool Minnesota evenings.
Kate was also a Jew. A convert when she was thirty. A Jew of the heart. She went to a service at Temple Israel and began to cry. She felt at home. Kate was not a cryer. Probably a mystical experience in retrospect.
During our Andover years we worshiped Mother Earth and Father Sun. In the old way. By working with them to grow food, to enhance the beauty of our home. Those years with hands in the soil, seeds and seedlings our tools, made me-and her-into confirmed animist/pagans.
Until we moved to the Mountains. It was time to take on new masks and tasks. We stumbled upon Congregation Beth Evergreen late in our first year here. Kate found a home for her Jewish soul. And I found a home for my animist/pagan one.
All this to get to one sentence: I’m going to live as if evolutionary panentheism and the notion of a soul are true. Said another way, I’m going to live into them.
Leah, former executive director director at CBE, now works in the Happy Camper office. She came out a bit hesitantly, not sure she knew a Charlie. When she saw me, it’s been two years, she lit up. Charlie! Big hug. Her purple tinted hair, her Grateful Dead dancing bears lanyard, her big smile. Second big hug. I loved her, too, Charlie. I know.
Back to the Hermitage for a nap. Tom back to Comfort Suites. We met later at the Black Hat Cattle Company for a final meal together. Tom and I understand each other. Like brothers, he says. And, I agree. Brothers from another mother.
Part of the oddness of Mountain living is you never know what a road’s like until you’ve driven it. That may sound obvious, but the differences are stark. Some roads, many, trace Mountain Streams as they follow gravity’s insistent pull toward sea level. Others climb up Mountain sides in switchbacks. But from the intersection with whatever road you’re on, they may look like any another country lane, nothing remarkable. Some valleys are narrow, but there’s usually enough room for a farm or two in the flat Land on either side of the Stream. Sometimes not. A series of switchbacks can require careful navigation, then open up to a wide view of Mountain Ranges and Valleys.
Yes, it’s surprising, but this is how I feel. Eager for the new creation while sad about Rigel, about Kate, about the life that included them in the body. No, I’m not moving out of the present moment. I anticipate nothing. I regret nothing. I yearn for nothing.
One of the upsides of all the angst this last year has been an immersion in love. Folks from all parts of my life from high school to college, family to friends, Minnesota to Colorado, Evergreen to Conifer, Judaism to Christianity have reached out, offered or given me support. It’s had the result I’ve needed. I’m not alone. I’m both needed and accepted as I am. Good to know at 75.
Saturday gratefuls: That Urbandale rocker. The new coffee table. The new lamp. Here at the Hermitage. Many items put in cabinets, fussing will be required. A plan slowly coming together. Feels wonderful. Rigel did not eat today. Her footpads. The two delivery guys from Modern Bungalow. “Do you have wildlife up here?” Looking at 4 Mule Deer in the front. Kids. Ruth’s first day back after the hospital. Snow coming down gently. Night fell.
Tired of feeling tired. I get only a few things done. Sit down. Nap. A few more. Not enough. I imagine it’s either the Erleada or the Erleada/Orgovyx combo. So hard to suss out though. Sarcopenia from not working out. Other meds. Getting good sleep so that’s not it.
Friday gratefuls: David Sanders. You’re the most articulate person I’ve ever met. Another person the night before, someone I admire: you’re the man I want to become. Geez. Yet. Nice, too. Therapy. Again. For me. For Ruth. Therapy Nation. Languishing. Mourning. Grieving. Bright Sun. Blue Sky. Black Mountain. Wireless mouse and keyboard. Wow.
Living. As far as I know, it beats dying.
Took her, Gabe, and Jon to Katsu Ramen. Was gonna be Domo, Ruth’s favorite, but it’s closed due to omicron. This was her 15th birthday meal. From last year. I took Gabe to his favorite, Benihana, last month. This little family. Sweet and, it seems, taking steps to heal from years of trauma physical and trauma emotional.
Some tears. Talking about Kate. About our life together, our love, our commitment to each other’s growth. Focusing on life after Kate. As David asked, “What does this 74 year old man have left to do with his life?” Exactly.